Goals 2017:  Health and Wellness

Goals 2017: Health and Wellness

Last week I shared my relationship goals – goals that included others.  This week I’ll be sharing my health and wellness goals – so the goals that really just include me!  I’d be willing to bet the vast majority of you have set health and wellness goals – probably more than once.  When I think of health and wellness I don’t think of just exercise and eating right – there are other aspects of personal wellness that I believe are just as important.  Hopefully a little insight into how I look at them will inspire you to think about your health and wellness goals in a different light. I think the most important aspect of a successful health and wellness goal is that it has to be exciting for you.  Say one of your goals is to get in better shape or to exercise consistently.  If you hate running, then by all means, don’t set yourself a goal of running a 5k.  It’s only going to piss you off every time you get on the treadmill – if you even continue to get on the treadmill!  Instead, think about what types of exercise would be fun for you and set a goal to do THAT consistently.  You are much more likely to succeed if you aren’t dreading the work involved in reaching a goal.  Healthy Living.  Why?  Losing weight or looking a certain way isn’t as important to me as feeling great.  Especially as I’ve struggled with not having the energy I desire in the past.  That means that being at my optimum health is super important to me –...

Goals 2017: Relationships

As I mentioned last week, this year I have a few very specific goals in each of the important areas of my life.  Goals I’ll be concentrating on and reviewing each quarter.  I’ve outlined nine areas, so I’ll cover three each week for the rest of the month.  I know many of us are hammering out our plans and goals for the year so hopefully this will spark some excitement or give you some good ideas on how to achieve the ones you’ve set. The first three goals are ones I believe ALL of us busy moms feel are important – they all center around relationships.  Now your relationship areas might be different than mine, but I’d be willing to bet you have some relationships in your life that are important to you and that you’d like to keep in mind and keep growing as 2017 unfolds. Spouse.  Why?  Pretty obvious I think, but especially now as our kids are in such a busy time of life – it’s very easy to get caught up in the “divide and conquer” method of parenting.  Efficient, yes, but also isolating.  So in 2017 I want to be intentional about making time for my spouse and not letting the busyness of this season take over.  How?  Weekly date nights, walking the dog together, making sure to talk for 10 – 15 minutes each evening (at a minimum and not about scheduling), and also Monday morning planning sessions to figure out who is doing what – that way that topic will hopefully not take over the other time we spend together.  Also at...
Thanksgiving Round-Up

Thanksgiving Round-Up

Happy Thanksgiving!  Hope you all have some fun and fulfilling plans for the next few days.  Today I thought I’d share a round-up of my favorite Thanksgiving posts and recipes. Everything Thanksgiving, all in one place! Recipes: Fresh Cranberries – I made these last night for the Thanksgiving I’m hosting Saturday.  Perfect to make ahead and check them off your list! Cranberry Mimosas – I’m totally adding these to my holiday gathering this year – YUM! Green Beans – so much better than the traditional green bean casserole Easy Cheese Plate – people love to snack on this while waiting for the turkey to finish cooking Traditions: Thanksgiving “Awards” – a fun family tradition my daughter created a few years ago – always a hit! Thanksgiving Leaves – this year I’m planning on adding this as a new tradition – simple and meaningful Burn off that dinner! – We’ve had kickball games, walks in the woods and other kinds of fun – I don’t know what it will be this year, but we’ll do something active after we eat. How will you spend your Thanksgiving holiday?  Are there any traditions that must be followed for your family? Ready to kick start a healthier and happier life?  Check out Make the Most of Every Day and stop letting life pass you...

A Skill Every Busy Mom NEEDS

Feeling busy Mama?  I hear you!  We are deep into the school year and between work, kids and all the up-coming holidays if life isn’t crazy for you now, it soon will be. So what skill should you have?  Be Present. For the love of all that’s holy, please STOP multi-tasking.  You might think you are good at it, but you are NOT.  Even worse, it’s robbing you of the simple joys of life like noticing and appreciating what you are doing, enjoying the moment and creating lasting memories. If you are always on your phone while “watching” your kids play instead of paying attention when they yell “watch this,” what do you think they will remember?   Mom on her phone, not Mom watching me. Studies show we aren’t as productive when we multi-task as we think we are and in fact, it takes us longer to get things done.  (http://www.cnn.com/2015/04/09/health/your-brain-multitasking/index.html; http://www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2014/10/08/multitasking-damages-your-brain-and-career-new-studies-suggest/#6aa05caf2c16) If you are accustomed to being a “power multi-tasker” this isn’t going to be easy, so be gentle with yourself and start slow. A few ideas to get you started: When you catch yourself doing multiple things at once, stop one immediately Set yourself up for success. Put your phone AWAY when you are with the kids.  Or driving.  Or in a meeting. When working on a project, shut off distractions (Facebook anyone?) Don’t over schedule yourself Set a timer when you begin a task – it will let your brain know when you can stop focusing and move on to the next task. What do you think about multi-tasking?  I know for most of us it’s...

Got Mommy Guilt? How to Release It

Today’s society has led us to believe that we should have it all, right?  We should have that great career, raise perfect kids, exercise daily, keep a super clean house, entertain and prepare dinner seven days a week.  That makes me tired just typing it all out! The thing we have to remember is that all of that takes time – and we each have the same amount of time in every day.  That amount of time just isn’t enough to do all that.  Add it up if you don’t believe me: Work – 8 hours Exercise – 1 hour Clean the house – 1 hour Entertain – 1 hour Fix dinner – 1 hour Kid time – 24 hours! And I didn’t even include all the other things we do – drive kids to practice, social obligations, leisure time,   time with our spouse, etc. Face it; it’s NOT possible to do everything at once.  However, it IS possible to do it all – just not at the same time and not every day. What you need to do is let go of what you see on social media (let’s face it, most people are posting the BEST of their life – we aren’t seeing the mess behind the photo), let go of judgement from others (and judgement from yourself) and decide what is most important to you right now in your life.  THIS is what you need to concentrate on first, and then don’t worry too much about the rest – in fact, if you can farm it out or let it go. At the end of the...

5 Ways to Help with Anxiety

Feeling anxious?  I run into this a lot with my coaching clients.  With the crazy, busy lifestyles we all live these days, it’s not surprising.  When you have 5 places to be between 4:00 and 8:00, not to mention dinner, homework, etc. how can you not feel anxious?  Next time you feel that tightness in your chest or the beginning of panic in your mind, give a few of these ideas a try: Slow down.  When you are anxious, your heart rate speeds up along with your breathing.  So stop for a minute or two and take 3 to 5 long, deep and slow breaths.  If possible, close your eyes.  This small pause is sometimes enough for you to catch your breath and get yourself back on track. Define what you are anxious about.  Is it true?  Are you worrying about something that just “might” happen or “might” be true?  Is it something you can’t change?  Then maybe it’s time to let it go.  A simple example (I know you might be worrying about something much bigger, but often it’s these small things that push us over the edge):  you are going to be late to an appointment because you’ve been rushing around all afternoon or are over scheduled.  Is there anything you can do to be on time?  If not, call ahead and let whomever you are meeting know and then cover up your clock.  You are going to be late regardless so quit focusing on how late you are and just get to where you need to go safely. Distraction.  Break the cycle if you can by reading...

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