Goals 2017: Relationships

As I mentioned last week, this year I have a few very specific goals in each of the important areas of my life.  Goals I’ll be concentrating on and reviewing each quarter.  I’ve outlined nine areas, so I’ll cover three each week for the rest of the month.  I know many of us are hammering out our plans and goals for the year so hopefully this will spark some excitement or give you some good ideas on how to achieve the ones you’ve set. The first three goals are ones I believe ALL of us busy moms feel are important – they all center around relationships.  Now your relationship areas might be different than mine, but I’d be willing to bet you have some relationships in your life that are important to you and that you’d like to keep in mind and keep growing as 2017 unfolds. Spouse.  Why?  Pretty obvious I think, but especially now as our kids are in such a busy time of life – it’s very easy to get caught up in the “divide and conquer” method of parenting.  Efficient, yes, but also isolating.  So in 2017 I want to be intentional about making time for my spouse and not letting the busyness of this season take over.  How?  Weekly date nights, walking the dog together, making sure to talk for 10 – 15 minutes each evening (at a minimum and not about scheduling), and also Monday morning planning sessions to figure out who is doing what – that way that topic will hopefully not take over the other time we spend together.  Also at...

A Skill Every Busy Mom NEEDS

Feeling busy Mama?  I hear you!  We are deep into the school year and between work, kids and all the up-coming holidays if life isn’t crazy for you now, it soon will be. So what skill should you have?  Be Present. For the love of all that’s holy, please STOP multi-tasking.  You might think you are good at it, but you are NOT.  Even worse, it’s robbing you of the simple joys of life like noticing and appreciating what you are doing, enjoying the moment and creating lasting memories. If you are always on your phone while “watching” your kids play instead of paying attention when they yell “watch this,” what do you think they will remember?   Mom on her phone, not Mom watching me. Studies show we aren’t as productive when we multi-task as we think we are and in fact, it takes us longer to get things done.  (http://www.cnn.com/2015/04/09/health/your-brain-multitasking/index.html; http://www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2014/10/08/multitasking-damages-your-brain-and-career-new-studies-suggest/#6aa05caf2c16) If you are accustomed to being a “power multi-tasker” this isn’t going to be easy, so be gentle with yourself and start slow. A few ideas to get you started: When you catch yourself doing multiple things at once, stop one immediately Set yourself up for success. Put your phone AWAY when you are with the kids.  Or driving.  Or in a meeting. When working on a project, shut off distractions (Facebook anyone?) Don’t over schedule yourself Set a timer when you begin a task – it will let your brain know when you can stop focusing and move on to the next task. What do you think about multi-tasking?  I know for most of us it’s...

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